Boundaries

It’s an almost universal truth that some people are simply good at helping. They are the friends who answer the phone at 3 AM, the colleagues who spot the burnout before you do, and the professionals—the nurses, therapists, teachers, and doctors—who dedicate their lives to easing the burdens of others. They are empathetic, reliable, incredibly independent, and often the bedrock for their communities. But if you are one of these people, you may know a deeply unsettling truth:

It's a common feeling, isn't it? That internal tug-of-war where you're trying to make space for your own life, your own needs, and your own identity, only to find that someone else's presence or demands are taking up all the room. We all crave connection, but true connection requires mutual consideration—a genuine understanding that others have their own "stuff" they need to carry, too. The Burden of Emotional Immaturity The struggle often stems from a place of emotional imma

As a mental health therapist, I often work with individuals on their journey of healing from trauma. One of the most powerful and transformative steps in this process is learning to set healthy boundaries. Trauma can often blur the lines of our personal space, making it difficult to recognize and assert our needs. But here’s the good news: reclaiming your boundaries is a vital act of self-love and a cornerstone of lasting recovery. Imagine a fence around your home. It’s there